“Know yourself to improve yourself” – Auguste Comte
Every person is unique in their own way and it is our personalities that make us distinct from others. Each of our personalities has its strengths and weaknesses, and developing our grey areas using our strengths help us understand ourselves better. A personality develops overtime and many factors play a role in moulding it. Social variables, parenting, environment and genetics are a few factors that influence the growth of a personality.
Success provides confidence, security, a sense of well-being, the ability to contribute at a greater level, hope and leadership. Without success, you, the group, your company, your goals, dreams and even entire civilizations cease to survive. With a good personality, one can achieve success.
Building a strong personality takes time and effort but with patience, we can overcome the difficult aspects of ourselves. A few ways to do that would be:
- Self-evaluation: We must often evaluate ourselves. We can write down our strengths and weaknesses on a piece of paper and think about improving those qualities that set us back from achievements or being a better, stronger person. It could be low confidence, fear of public speaking, poor dressing sense, etc. Taking one area at a time and trying to excel in it and once it has been instilled in us, we move on to the next weak quality to improve upon.
- Learning from mistakes: Mistakes are a stepping stone to a greater character. We all make mistakes and we must be humble enough to accept that we have made a mistake, learn from it, and ensure to never repeat it. Accepting our mistakes will gain our respect and many will be attracted to our personality.
- Improve the inner you: As the saying goes, “beauty is only skin deep”, one must look within, polish and bring out the beauty that lies deep in us. It does not do to bury the gem that lies in each of us. We must think of ways on improving the inner self, as it reflects in our actions and as a result people flock to our personality. Our physical beauty fades with time and it attracts only temporary interest.
- Be kind: When we reach out to those in need, they are not the only ones that gain from our help. The person that is greatly benefitted is us. We are immensely satisfied by lending a helping hand. A quote that brings out this best is, “You will never say to yourself when you are old, Ah, I wish I was not good to that person.”
- Inculcate the habit of reading: Reading expands our thought process and inculcates in us an understanding of other people’s behavior better. We are also able to handle things better having known a lot from reading. This gains an appreciation from others.
- Listen: If we listen more, we know more. Many people wish they listen to more. And when we do just that, people feel they are appreciated and a sense of importance is felt in them. Listening helps us gain respect and many friends.